Hi Fehmz, thank you for sharing your time with us here
1. First question, how did motherhood change you? And are you planning on expanding your family?
Motherhood has been the hardest job I have ever applied for, and the hardest job to get as well because it took us a few years before we were blessed with a baby. It’s been rewarding, amazing, exhausting, fun and the best job ever. I love it. Unfortunately as I get older, even if I would like to expand my family, my age is not on my side and neither is my energy level so it’s likely we will stay a small family, except for one more addition through adoption one day insha-allah. It’s a dream of mine to fulfil the sunnah of adopting, i hope to achieve it soon.
2. Who is most admirable to you in the mom world and why?
I don’t know if I could pinpoint a person. The relationship of Khadeejah RA and the Prophet SAW are an incredible example of parenthood for me. The love they shared in raising their children is unparalleled.
But if we are talking about someone alive and kicking, then it’s my sister and one of my cousins, Aneesa. They have this motherhood, bringing up children thing down to an art. The perfect balance of discipline, confidence and connection to religion. I am in awe of them.
3. Do you feel like there is pressure on you as an influencer that takes away your time as a parent?
I think there is pressure in life regardless. I try to ensure that I strictly make time. I try not to be stuck into what is perceived as a MUST do for social media. My focus is on family and on my small businesses. I absolutely love social media and I like to share my life and what I love. Does it sometimes take away from my children, yes it does. But i look at it as “me time” in a way. I do it for me. It makes me happy.
And i make sure I have downtime. I put my phone down and spend time just playing with them too. Life is about balance right?
4. What are the challenges if any, that you face being a parent?
The biggest challenge is wondering if I am doing this parenting thing right.
5. What is your favourite thing to do with your children? And to do as a family?
There’s no favourites, my kids and I sing together, dance together, jump on the bed together, make up stories together, put puzzles together. I draw the line at playing with slime though…yuck. They can do that without me. Hahahaha.
6. Any advice you could give to woman who are struggling to start their own business whilst juggling working and being a mom?
There’s no formula, do what you can. Be honest and true to your commitment. Don’t use your family as an excuse for poor or shoddy service. Give your all to every avenue and you will find that a tricky balance is possible. Set your time aside or manage your time, prioritise family but don’t lose your quality standard in your business.
7. You always have a smile on your face and bring laughter to people. What’s your secret?
I choose to try my best to be as happy as possible or at least to smile when I answer a message or a phone call. It puts others at ease. I have my bad days and my self conscious days, my angry days and the days I just can’t even be bothered to get out of PJs. But most of all, I think choosing to be happy is important. There is so much to be grateful for. Alhamdulillah.
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