Motherhood and faith

Being a mother in Islam is one of the highest praises a woman status is raised up too. It is a dignified and valued role. The importance of the mother is evident in Islamic teachings. From marriage, to conception and then childbirth and rearing. As a mother in the home it can be quite easy to forget the respect and position, we hold in our homes, as the pillars of strength that hold our households together. We are the glue that holds all the puzzle pieces together, pulling each unit closer when it loosens or tends to move away from the folds. In-between trying to raise our children to be good people and Muslims we are stuck between finding time for ourselves, housework, cooking and our faith too.

Our Prophet S.A.W enjoined goodness to mother’s that we must keep dear to our hearts:

A man came to the Prophet and said, ‘O Messenger of God! Who among the people is the most-worthy of my good companionship? The Prophet said: Your mother. The man said, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man further asked, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your mother. The man asked again, ‘Then who?’ The Prophet said: Then your father. (Bukhari, Muslim)

Islam praises woman so high that we are given the status of fighters in the path of Allah S.W.T when we become pregnant, up until delivery from breastfeeding till we are finished, if we had to die during this time we would be given the status as a Martyr of Islam. Raising virtuous children will be our reward even when we pass away. Alhamdulillah. What positions we hold in Islam, so my dear sisters let us keep our heads up and support each other in the way of our faith.

If one of us falls behind or needs a helping hand. Offer it.

Motherhood entails great difficulty a fact recognized by the Qur’an. Imagine what the mother of Prophet Musa (A) went through when she was told to put her baby in the river, and she was given the re-assurance that her child would be returned to her. Allah asked her to do one of the hardest things imaginable, give her baby away to the unknown. But her Iman (faith) was so strong that she accepted and followed through.

When the baby was picked up by Firawn’s wife he refused to suckle the milk on any foster mother, and it was then suggested by Prophet Musa (A) sister that they try to use her mother. Mother and baby were united by Allah’s promise. (Sura TaHa 37-40, Qasas 7-13) Allah U Akbar (God is great). What strength, what sabr (patience) she had to endure.

Let us all have these qualities in us with our own children, ameen.

We as mothers have outstanding qualities that we forget with our daily life and the chase of the Dhunya (temporal world). I want to remind you as I remind myself too:

The love for our children is unmatched. Our child could be disabled, healthy, troublesome, or obedient but we still overcome these difficulties with love in the end. Whether we shout and punish them when they are misbehaving, this too is a form of love from us as mothers. We are also trying to teach them right from wrong, in the end we always show love and give them comfort after we do. Our children will grow up knowing us as mother’s who bring peace and love to the home. Do children not feel attached to the home because of the mother’s? I think so.

Do not forget that we are the first point of contact to our children when they are born, they are the future of Islam, as what lies in us as mother’s is what we will instil in them as they grow.

As mothers we are hard on ourselves and we forget or do not know by tending to our children we are getting rewarded. Every time we attend to our children we are rewarded or feed our children it is a Sadaqa and we are rewarded for it. Whatever good habits, or good manners and morals that will be performed by our children that we as mothers have passed on to them, we will get rewarded for it. They are our legacies and when we pass away our book of deeds will close, but we will still be able to accrue reward in the form of our pious children who makes dua for us or carry on with the good we had taught them.

So, when you feel like you are struggling with your faith, remember that these actions in themselves give us rewards throughout our daily lives. So, to recap we are still gaining reward and following our religious duties even though we feel we are not doing the best at times. Mother’s in Islam have gone through major trials by handing their faith in The Almighty and we should also do the same with ours. If you struggle remember we all struggle and the best medicine for this is to remember your place as the pillar in the house and the rewards you are gaining by just ‘living’.

Jazakallah for information given from Mufti Aslam. (Zimbabwe).